In the Circle, it is not allowed. Mostly for fear of unions resulting in child, but it’s not as if you are allowed anything like love whether or not that is a factor. It is seen as conspiracy, fraternization. An act to be punished. Something for the Templars to use as leverage against you. I was … with someone, for a time while I was at Kinloch Hold. It was the most content I had ever managed to be in the Circle. For a while I even stopped my escape attempts, resigned myself to life there, because at least we were together. Karl had never stepped a toe out of line, never even dreamed of leaving the Circle walls. He liked the quiet and the studying and teaching and obeying all of their rules except one. And it didn't matter, because they separated us regardless and sent him to the Kirkwall Circle. The point is punishment, not keeping us safe from anything.

Now, I have to be dedicated to the cause. Feelings like that are a distraction, and a detriment. I cannot choose my personal feelings over the mages. I would only end up breaking someone’s heart.